There are basically four different general types of punishments: They are denials, tasks, humiliation, and physical. We will talk about each of these, the first two in this post, followed by the latter two in an upcoming post. The main thing to remember is that none of these have to be extreme or difficult, particularly at the outset. That said, using them, and doing so regularly is an absolute must. If you are not willing to learn how to use punishments, you will never get anywhere with your new interest. This applies whether you are talking about developing a more female-led-relationship or going so far as to create a relationship better described as cuckolding.
Although at first glance, it would appear that the list is in progressive order of difficulty, with denials being the most easily accomplished and physical punishments being the most challenging (for both the person administering the punishment and the recipient). That is not necessarily the case, as you will see. Let’s walk through them one at a time.
Denials can be quite simple. They may well be the easiest punishments for you, the woman, to dole out. In part because all they require of you is to withhold something or require him to refrain from doing something. In this sense, they are sort-of an “anti-action”. The most obvious example of a denial is for you to withhold sex or an aspect of it from him. A common specific example is making him refrain from cumming. This has all sorts of benefits and plays a major role in keeping your man interested, compliant, and motivated. But, there are a virtually infinite number of other denials you can use to your benefit. Here are a few to consider:
1) Removing television privileges
2) Withholding free-time (making him stay home instead of being able to go out and play)
3) Prohibiting him from having treats or his favorite drink (no beer for you tonight, etc.)
4) Limiting what he eats and when (related to above, but includes meals)
5) No showering for a duration of your choosing (this is particularly personal and controlling).
6) Bathroom privileges (make him ask permission, this touches on humiliation as well).
The sky is the limit with regard to denials. You can use them in response to his having done something you did not want him to, or for failing to do something you asked or required of him. The point is that you should keep your eyes peeled for opportunities to deny him. It is a demonstration of your control and each time you use a denial it makes It easier to gain compliance.
Tasks are some of the most effective and elegant of punishments. They are both effective and easily used. Many women find these to be the most appealing of punishments. I wish I had a dime for every time I heard a woman say, “If I had any idea this was possible, I would have done it a long time ago!” Think of all the things you have wanted him to do and either chose not to ask of him or were disappointed and angry he did not do as promised. The beauty of task-based punishments is that they are so easily integrated into your daily life. Remember the section in the earlier post about “making it real?” No punishments compliment your day-to-day life as nicely as tasks. For many women, this becomes their “go to” tool. Tasks also are a good way of introducing punishments which can lead to a higher level of comfort with the other types of punishments. Another benefit of tasks is that you can assign them once as an ongoing responsibility of your partner and it becomes the gift that keeps giving, providing constant reinforcement of what you are trying to create without you ever having to lift a finger (unless he fails to comply). As with denials, there is no end to the tasks you can come up with. Some tasks can be required as a simple demonstration of the new dynamic that you two are trying to introduce into your relationship. You don’t have to wait for misconduct to use them! A key element that makes tasks both easier to use and more effective is to look for “real” things you would prefer he do instead of you, or simply things you would like to have done that would otherwise not get done. Here are some examples:
1) Anything to do with typical domestic housework (dusting, vacuuming, dishes, taking out the trash, etc.)
2) Home projects of any sort, such as hanging pictures, fixing fences, yard-work, etc.
3) Errands. Stop being the one who runs here and there for everything. Make him do it!
4) Food preparation. Enough with the learned helplessness. Make him cook or make him go get food and bring it to you.
5) Literally, any time you feel overwhelmed or are engaging in the process of figuring out how you are going to get everything done, think of what you can delegate to him.
One important characteristic of tasks is that using them changes the way you view yourself, and your place in the relationship. Think about it. If you are the one running yourself ragged, does that reflect a high sense of self-respect? Use him in this capacity. Besides, he asked for it! Soon you will find your self-esteem and confidence increasing, even in areas having nothing to do with the dynamic you are trying to create. Have fun with it!
Whether you are using denials, tasks, humiliations, or physical punishments; you should make a list of those things you have thought of or used. Make some notes of what worked well. Doing so will make it much easier to come up with an appropriate response quickly if one does not come to mind when needed.
In the next post of Cuckold Strategies that Work, we will explore the latter of the four punishments mentioned, humiliation and physical.
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